The
Mytholmroyd
Conditions for the
burial of the cremated remains of a loved one
Introduction
The
death of a loved one is one of the most stressful experiences of our lives.
Suddenly we are plunged into making a whole series of decisions, which in one
sense we have known we must face one day, but, in truth, we have placed at the
back of our minds feeling it is not something we need to decide just now.
This
can be most difficult if the death is a result of an accident, or where the
loved one is young, and we have not discussed the matter of death and the
desires of the loved one in the event of their death.
These
decisions seem to follow rapidly, even before we have had time to adjust to the
loss of the loved one. Before we know it the undertaker is knocking at the
door, ‘will it be a burial or a cremation?’ ‘ What
kind of service will you require’ ‘Here is the coffin catalogue for you to
choose from’; then there is the registration of the death and obtaining sufficient
copies of the death certificate to satisfy banks, insurance companies, etc.
then there is the notifying of the members of the family, and all the
complications if they are living, or are on holiday, abroad.
We
understand what you are facing and this leaflet is to help you to make the
appropriate decisions in making arrangements for the cremated remains of your
loved one.
Initially
the only decision you need to take is whether you wish the remains of your
loved one to be buried in the crematorium grounds or whether you wish to make
your own arrangements. In the case of the latter you need only inform the
undertaker of your wish. You can then take your time until you feel the
appropriate moment has arrived and the location is agreed; but we would advise
that you will not feel completion until this is done and would counsel against
leaving it too long.
Most
families will have a family grave. Even though the grave may be full, it is
still possible to have the cremated remains buried in the grave. This unites
the family in death and should always be considered.
Nevertheless
there are situations which arise where there is nowhere suitable or accessible.
In these situations then you may wish to consider our
Conditions
Because of the limited space
available we are now having to apply the following
conditions:
1. The Parish Priest must always be approached and the
matter discussed with him before any arrangements are made
2. No burial of Ashes is possible without the
appropriate certificate of authenticity issued by the Crematorium being
available. This is a legal requirement.
3. There is no need to have a casket as the ashes will
be poured into the ground. The name of the loved one will be recorded on the
Memorial Plaque.
4. No other memorials will be allowed.
5. Flowers/arrangements may be placed in front of the
memorial plaque in appropriate containers.
6. We request no plastic flowers, toys etc as these
tend to be blown into the car-park on windy, stormy days.
7. Each November the names inscribed on the Memorial
Plaque are updated and a memorial service is held on Remembrance Sunday after
the morning Mass. You are always welcome to these and to visit your loved one
at any time.
8. We will also offer Mass for the repose of the soul
of your loved one on the anniversary of their death if you wish.
Please
place an offering in an envelope and write the name and the anniversary date on
the outside of the envelope and put through the Presbytery letter box.
The
Mass will be listed on the weekly Parish Bulletin (available at the back of the
Church) and you will be most welcome to come along. You can ask for an
appropriate day/time which will suit you
“It is a good and holy thing to pray for the dead”
Some appropriate psalms
and prayers
Psalm 22
The
Lord is my shepherd
There
is nothing I shall want.
Fresh
and green are the pastures
where He gives me repose.
Near
restful waters He leads me
to revive my drooping spirit.
He
guides me along the right path.
He is
true to His name.
If I
should walk in the valley of darkness
no evil will I fear.
You are
there with your crook and your staff. With these you give me comfort.
You
have prepared a banquet for me
in sight of my foes.
My head
you have anointed with oil;
My cup
is overflowing.
Surely
goodness and kindness shall follow me
All the days of my life.
In the
Lord’s own house shall I dwell
For ever and ever.
Psalm 129
Out of
the depths I cry to you O Lord.
Lord hear my voice!
O let
your ears be attentive
to the voice of my pleading.
If you
O Lord should mark our guilt,
Lord
who would survive?
But
with You is found forgiveness;
For
this we revere you.
My soul
is waiting for the Lord
I count
on His word.
My soul
is longing for the Lord
more than watchman for daybreak.
(Let
the watchman count on daybreak and
Because
with the Lord there is mercy
And fullness of redemption.
Israel
He will redeem
from all its iniquity
The Lord’s
prayer
Our
Father who art in heaven hallowed be Thy name. Thy
kingdom come, Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us
this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who
trespass against us, and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen
Hail Mary
Hail
Mary full of grace the Lord is with you. Blessed are you amongst women and
blessed is the fruit of your womb, Jesus
Holy
Mary, Mother of God pray for us sinners now and the
hour of our death. Amen
Hail Holy Queen
Hail
Holy Queen, mother of mercy; Hail our life our sweetness and our hope. To thee
do we cry, poor banished children of Eve; to thee do we send up our sighs
mourning and weeping in this vale of tears; Turn then most gracious advocate, thine eyes of mercy towards us, and after this our exile,
show unto us the blessed fruit of thy womb, Jesus; O clement, O loving, O sweet
virgin Mary. Pray for us, O holy Mother of God, that we may be made worthy of
the promises of Christ. Amen
Eternal rest grant to them O Lord
and let perpetual Light shine upon them. May Thy Divine Assistance remain
always with us and may their souls and the souls of all the faithful departed,
rest in peace. Amen